It is my not-so-secret belief that the old ways are usually the best. Most of what we are supposed to buy for our kids these days is more about marketing than actual development. Babies need you--your face, your eyes, your moving mouth--more than they need any toy. They need your arms, and the physical joy of riding snuggled against your body, more than they need any car seat or stroller.
As I make decisions about how to raise my son, I often refer back to what my parents did with me. They were minimalist types as well, and their sensibilities were really those of an even older generation. Before the recalls on plastic toys, we had wooden ones because plastic was "tacky." Before the era of ultra-engineered colic-proof baby bottles, we were breastfed because, well, the breast is right there, the baby is hungry, and formula costs money.
When it was time for shoes, we went to the shoe store and were fitted for navy blue mary janes, with half an inch of "growing room" in the toe. From age four through eight, successively larger sizes of mary janes were all there was.
Before my memories, even, there were other shoes: little white first-walking shoes with bells. The bells were actually on little plastic capsules that enclosed the laces so I couldn't untie the shoes.
...So I couldn't untie the shoes. There's a clue there.
My son is crawling and standing and seriously thinking about walking. So naturally my maternal instincts turn to thoughts of shoes. Which shoes are best for my baby? Which shoes will give him healthy feet and help him learn to walk?
The answer, it turns out, is: None at all.
The little white walking shoes, and their little bells, and their little childproof laces are not good for babies' feet, as it happens. Babies want to learn to walk without shoes that throw them off balance. Naturally, they will try to take their stiff shoes off.
So all that business about shoes helping your feet to grow? That was misguided at best, and sheer marketing bullshit at worst. Podiatrists now recommend that children go entirely shoeless for the first 3 years of life, and shoeless at home until age 12.
Won't my baby's feet get cold? Unless you have a concrete floor in your house, your little one's feet will be fine. Baby feet should be cool to the touch.
Won't my baby's feet get dirty? Ideally, everyone should go shoeless at home, not just the under-12 set. Your baby's feet won't get dirty if your floor isn't dirty. And your floor won't be dirty if you're not tracking in dirt from outside. Leave your shoes at the door. And if you really are concerned about dirty feet, remember feet are washable!
For going outdoors in winter, and for walking and crawling in strange places, a soft unstructured slipper-shoe like Robeez is very convenient. We have several pairs and love 'em. Robeez are little elasticized leather booties that slip on easily. They wear well and often show up at resale shops.
Another brand of baby shoe I've heard good things about (but can't vouch for personally) is Pedoodles. These are a little more fashion forward and "finished" looking (no elastic). They come in a variety of adorable styles.
I am as vulnerable to adorable styles as anyone else, but where shoes are concerned, I think it's better to be cautious than fashionable. Truly, where infant shoes are concerned, LESS IS MORE.
Update: A friend just turned me on to Bobux. Not only have Bobux worked well for her son, but these shoes use a non-toxic leather.
My son is worse than any puppy when it comes to chewing on shoes. His own little shoes are the top target. When you consider that conventional tanning and leather-dyeing techniques are awash in toxins, it's hard to allow him this dangerous satisfaction. So I pry shoes away from him several times a day, and he complains quite shrilly.
But Bobux...he can chew them! I'm so excited for this, for my peace of mind, and for my son's impending delight.
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Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Thursday, October 2, 2008
How to Stop My Baby Chewing Power Cords?
My baby loves power cords. It doesn't matter if they connect the computer to the charger, or a floor lamp to the wall. They are fascinating. And dangerous.
Even if a device is unplugged, allowing a baby to play with the cord is dangerous. Allowing her to chew the cord is worse: many appliances act as capacitors, meaning they can store some charge. If the plug goes in your baby's mouth--ZZZIP!--current can pass into her body. At worst, this could cause injury. At best, a nasty surprise. Not something we want to encourage.
Greater danger comes from the other end of the cord, the end with the radio or the lamp or the printer attached. Your baby may pull the appliance down, damaging it—or damaging herself!
So how to distract from those enticing Cords-Of-Desire?
Your first step should be to hide or conceal as many of the cords as possible, before your little one becomes inappropriately familiar with them. Perhaps you can thread the cords differently. Or put a piece of furniture in front of the outlet. Or even tape the cord out of sight, say to the back of a table leg. (Blue masking tape works well for this, since it doesn’t leave a mark.)
Once the baby does find a cord, your only option is to redirect his attention (if you can), and hide the cord (if you can). And then hope that, for your little one, out of sight is still truly out of mind. Before a certain age, babies forget about what they can’t see.
If you can't physically move the cord to tuck it out of sight, you may be able reduce the contrast with its surroundings. A black cord is a beacon against a white wall. Perhaps you can cover it with light-colored tape, or even find a light-colored cord--one that blends in to surroundings and doesn't scream to be chewed. This isn’t the best solution, but if the cord doesn’t stand out against the wall, that increases the chance that something else will catch your baby’s eye first.
Of course, you can’t hide all your electrical cords. And removing all corded appliances from your home is probably not an option. How can you keep your baby safe and happy, while satisifying the cord-chewing urge?
It's important to acknowledge that your baby isn't trying to be naughty. (Really!) Some deep urge is driving her; there is something going on with your little one that makes electrical cords Extremely Interesting. I suspect that mysterious something is teething, but I don’t know. The question for this article is, Can we substitute something that will satiate the baby's desire for cords? And the answer is Yes.
You need a safe cord alternative. Now, you could cut up old power cords, seal the wire ends with electrical tape, and give them to your baby. But the plastic in cords is not meant to be gummed and slimed and sucked on by small humans. Better to find a material that is chewable. A safe cord.
I should stress that a “safe” cord is not Completely Safe. You should never leave your child unattended in the company of anything that resembles a cord! No matter what you substitute, your cord alternative is not a toy. But a “safe” cord may delight your child, and it may make your life as a parent much more pleasant.
The first cord I adapted for baby use was a thick drawstring. I tied it in many delightful knots so that it would be bulky enough to prevent choking. Pediatricians recommend against letting babies play with lengths of loose string; a securely-tangled bunch of string is safer. Of course you don't want loops large enough to pose a strangulation hazard--but then again, you're not going to leave your baby alone with this, remember?
The drawstring has been a big hit for my little teether. I've even hooked it to a pacifier-tether and hung it within reach when we go out-and-about. Hours of fun right there, more than any other single toy, except:
Milk-pump tubing. This is the clear tubing that delivers suction from a breast pump to the suction cups. This tubing (often Medela brand) can be yours for about $10 online, and at any lactation equipment shop. It is made from a safe plastic that is free of PVC, BPA, and the other suspicious toxins du jour--so the material is safe for your baby to chew on. It is also delightfully firm-yet-yielding in tiny mouths.
Unfortunately, plastic tubing is hard to tie into knots, and it has blunt ends that can hurt if shoved in the mouth. Needless to say, you will be supervising your baby. But if you suspect that your child lacks the ability to learn that long skinny things hurt when shoved into the back of the mouth, you may wish to wait on this item. (Eventually, of course, your baby will learn not to jam things into the back of his throat, just as we all learned.)
The breast pump tubing offers everything that makes electrical cords so enticing. It is stringy, and bouncy. It can be flossed between the teeth, presumably soothing sore gums. And yet, with your supervision, it is a much safer alternative.
I have just one more thing to add—the one word of wisdom for every parenting problem—remember that This Too Shall Pass. As adults, you and I no longer feel the need to chew power cords. And one day our little children will have passed through this stage and be on to something else!
Even if a device is unplugged, allowing a baby to play with the cord is dangerous. Allowing her to chew the cord is worse: many appliances act as capacitors, meaning they can store some charge. If the plug goes in your baby's mouth--ZZZIP!--current can pass into her body. At worst, this could cause injury. At best, a nasty surprise. Not something we want to encourage.
Greater danger comes from the other end of the cord, the end with the radio or the lamp or the printer attached. Your baby may pull the appliance down, damaging it—or damaging herself!
So how to distract from those enticing Cords-Of-Desire?
Your first step should be to hide or conceal as many of the cords as possible, before your little one becomes inappropriately familiar with them. Perhaps you can thread the cords differently. Or put a piece of furniture in front of the outlet. Or even tape the cord out of sight, say to the back of a table leg. (Blue masking tape works well for this, since it doesn’t leave a mark.)
Once the baby does find a cord, your only option is to redirect his attention (if you can), and hide the cord (if you can). And then hope that, for your little one, out of sight is still truly out of mind. Before a certain age, babies forget about what they can’t see.
If you can't physically move the cord to tuck it out of sight, you may be able reduce the contrast with its surroundings. A black cord is a beacon against a white wall. Perhaps you can cover it with light-colored tape, or even find a light-colored cord--one that blends in to surroundings and doesn't scream to be chewed. This isn’t the best solution, but if the cord doesn’t stand out against the wall, that increases the chance that something else will catch your baby’s eye first.
Of course, you can’t hide all your electrical cords. And removing all corded appliances from your home is probably not an option. How can you keep your baby safe and happy, while satisifying the cord-chewing urge?
It's important to acknowledge that your baby isn't trying to be naughty. (Really!) Some deep urge is driving her; there is something going on with your little one that makes electrical cords Extremely Interesting. I suspect that mysterious something is teething, but I don’t know. The question for this article is, Can we substitute something that will satiate the baby's desire for cords? And the answer is Yes.
You need a safe cord alternative. Now, you could cut up old power cords, seal the wire ends with electrical tape, and give them to your baby. But the plastic in cords is not meant to be gummed and slimed and sucked on by small humans. Better to find a material that is chewable. A safe cord.
I should stress that a “safe” cord is not Completely Safe. You should never leave your child unattended in the company of anything that resembles a cord! No matter what you substitute, your cord alternative is not a toy. But a “safe” cord may delight your child, and it may make your life as a parent much more pleasant.
The first cord I adapted for baby use was a thick drawstring. I tied it in many delightful knots so that it would be bulky enough to prevent choking. Pediatricians recommend against letting babies play with lengths of loose string; a securely-tangled bunch of string is safer. Of course you don't want loops large enough to pose a strangulation hazard--but then again, you're not going to leave your baby alone with this, remember?
The drawstring has been a big hit for my little teether. I've even hooked it to a pacifier-tether and hung it within reach when we go out-and-about. Hours of fun right there, more than any other single toy, except:
Milk-pump tubing. This is the clear tubing that delivers suction from a breast pump to the suction cups. This tubing (often Medela brand) can be yours for about $10 online, and at any lactation equipment shop. It is made from a safe plastic that is free of PVC, BPA, and the other suspicious toxins du jour--so the material is safe for your baby to chew on. It is also delightfully firm-yet-yielding in tiny mouths.
Unfortunately, plastic tubing is hard to tie into knots, and it has blunt ends that can hurt if shoved in the mouth. Needless to say, you will be supervising your baby. But if you suspect that your child lacks the ability to learn that long skinny things hurt when shoved into the back of the mouth, you may wish to wait on this item. (Eventually, of course, your baby will learn not to jam things into the back of his throat, just as we all learned.)
The breast pump tubing offers everything that makes electrical cords so enticing. It is stringy, and bouncy. It can be flossed between the teeth, presumably soothing sore gums. And yet, with your supervision, it is a much safer alternative.
I have just one more thing to add—the one word of wisdom for every parenting problem—remember that This Too Shall Pass. As adults, you and I no longer feel the need to chew power cords. And one day our little children will have passed through this stage and be on to something else!
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